No sleep support group!

[Kimberli]

So I know there are a lot of us with babies who aren't sleeping, either napping or at night, so I wanted to start a thread where we can come to vent, troubleshoot, share ideas, or just scream!! ;)

So have at it ladies...we'll just make this a never-ending thread!

[Kimberli]

So Nicholas is 100% not sleeping now, either at night or napping during the day! We tried an abbreviated version of CIO and it was torture for all of us (and not to mention it didn't work), so we're not doing that anymore! I have a book I'm waiting for at the library that is another sleep training method that doesn't involve CIO, so we'll be trying that as soon as I can get my hands on that book!

I am fortunate, on some days, that he will lay down and nap with me but I don't have time to do that every day, nor do I want him to get into the habit of sleeping in bed with me. But on the days that I'm working that night, it is a lifesaver so we can both get a little shut eye.

I just don't know what to do anymore!

[Cherrybaby185]

Im so tired today, Caden had slept from 12am-5:45am waking up 3 times within that time. I hope he is just teething and this isnt a new thing, im exhausted today.

[Chris]

I thought you were joking Kim

I will make us a support group:-)

[Kimberli]

Heck no, I wasn't joking!! I figured there were enough of us having issues in this area, that we needed somewhere to vent - hell I could start a thread every day just with sleep issues we had the previous night! I figure maybe if we have a central place to share tips and tricks then maybe we can get all of these babies sleeping eventually...

[Chris]

Done:-)

[Sarah]

I got Logan to sleep 2 nights in a row by completely stuffing him with food. I nursed him and fed him a meat and vegetable and then nursed him again. I don't know if it will always work, but the last 2 nights were nice.

[Kimberli]

That may be what I'm trying next, feeding him more solids, because I can't take much more of this...

I just tried to lay down and nap with him since I have to work tonight and he nursed for 5 min then sat up - he's only slept for 30 min today so I know he's tired. I started crying because I'm so tired and you know what he did - he freakin' laughed at me! :g:

And now he's doing nothing but fussing and wants nothing I have to offer him...

[MistyAnn]

um.. My 3.5 year olds still dont sleep.

Can I join?

[Chris]

Absolutely! 3.5 yrs no sleep -- I should not complain then. How do you get through each day?

[MistyAnn]

With alot of coffee! Ask Dh lol.

They've never napped, they dont fall asleep until about 11pm, and they wake up at 7! what is wrong with my kids? Although they just feel asleep in the car for 15 minutes.. now they are as hyped up as ever.

[natalie]

I am here too. Harley (11 months) is not sleeping through. I do think she is just growing becayse I feed A LOT of food table food at dinner and feed her befpre bed amd she still wakes up 5-6 times STARVING.

[Sarah]

I stuffed Logan again last night and he slept all night again. I think he must be growing because his appetite is out of control.

[Chris]

Cool Sarah. I tried stuffing Jared. It does not work.

He has three meals a day plus bottles. I wonder if I shoudl maybe try adding a mini fourth meal at some time diring the day.

[Kimberli]

Nicholas was up ALL day yesterday, he maybe got 45 min total sleep! But I fed him 2 meals of solids like Sarah said she did with Logan, and he slept from 9p until 4:45a! Then we fell asleep on the couch nursing until 6:15, then back to bed with me until 9:30 - not a perfect night but an improvement!

[Keren]

im sitting here now just listening to Zach cry and cry and cry... he hasnt slept at all today!!!

[Keren]

well after 10 minutes of crying i went it, gave him his binky and he passed right out, now i have to shower, right in the middle of AMC....

[Sarah]

Kim-That is an improvement!

[Kimberli]

He has been up all day again - I don't know how he has any energy to do anything! He is cranky as hell because he has to be tired...he's currently nursing and falling asleep, so maybe he'll sleep for a little while at breast.

I just want a good sleeper one of these days...

[Kimberli]

well after 10 minutes of crying i went it, gave him his binky and he passed right out, now i have to shower, right in the middle of AMC....

I'm glad he finally passed out so you can get something done! Nicholas won't give up that easily, if he does fall asleep like that then it's only for 20 min...

[Stacey]

I'm on #3 and have NEVER had a good sleeper :pissedoff:

[Kimberli]

:sigh1: Stacey - you're not helping my morale!! ;)

I've been chanting to myself lately "#2 will be a good sleeper, #2 will be a good sleeper!" just so there's a chance at there being a #2 because right now, it isn't sounding too apealing...:sad:

[MistyAnn]

lol and that's why there's no #3 here!

[Kimberli]

MistyAnn you aren't helping either! ;) You guys are supposed to tell me it gets better with each baby!

[MistyAnn]

I'll trade your single for my twins!

[Stacey]

Why do you think I'm severely hesitating #4 eventhough I want one?! I don't mind the work at all I just want SLEEP!!!

[Chris]

Kim I have to be honest. It got worse with each baby for me.

Zach slept through the night when we first came home from hospital. the docs would yell at me and tell me I had to wake him and feed him. The best sleeper ever.

Nolan Was rough and did not sleep through the nigth for his first 2 years or more. He always woke up a couple of times a night until after two yrs.

And Jared by far the worst. Wont take naps and wont sleep at night. Up a hundred times.

My experience is it get worse. But I was always told each baby gets easier. Must have been a guy who started that.

[Kimberli]

You guys are killing me here! ;) No, we'll have more, I was just hoping to get some sleep before that happens

[Tracy]

I'm very fortunate that Megan is a good night time sleeper (last night was 9pm to 6:15am) but naps have been horrible lately! I probably won't post a lot but my Sam was and still is a horrible sleeper so I can totally sympathize with those of you not getting any sleep. Sam is 3 and 2 months and is just starting to sleep through the night 3-4 nights a week (last night was not one of those nights!).

[Tracy]

MistyAnn you aren't helping either! ;) You guys are supposed to tell me it gets better with each baby!

We can tell you that but its not necessarily true.

My DS1 was a fairly decent sleeper. Naps were always an issue but at daycare, he was just put in a crib and at 10 months, my FIL started watching him and he and Cameron would take a nap together. On weekends, my DH and I would nap with him. We always laid down to sleep with him. It really wasn't an issue because he went to sleep fast. Then he started taking longer and longer to fall asleep. When I got pg with #2, I started moving away from him. I'd lay 10mins and then sit at the edge of the bed. Then I'd just sit on the edge of the bed. Then I sat next to the bed. Then a few feet away. Then further. Finally by the door. I then bought this little music box for the baby and he loved it so I would turn it on and leave. It ran 10 mins. I'd come back when it ended and turn it on again. He'd usually be out before it ended the 2nd time.

Then Sam came and we were using a cosleeper and my DH got it in his head that Cameron would be lonely and/or sad that he was all alone in his room and let him sleep with us. That ruined Cameron. At just over 5.5yrs, we bought a bunk bed so he was forced to sleep alone. He still gets up and comes to our bed almost every night!

Then there is Sam. I could go on for hours about Sam. The first 3wks with him were AMAZING. He was the best baby. Then the all day screaming started and my sleep disappeared. 20mins became his longest nap. I was up with him I don't know how many times a night. At 15 months I moved him out of his crib because I could not stand next to it anymore half a dozen times every night. I found myself falling asleep standing up and falling into the wall or crib. I started laying down with him until he went to sleep, getting up for a few hours only to go back to his bed and stay with him. He eventually learned to get up and come to my bed which made it a little easier. He is 3 and 2 months and has recently started staying in bed all night a few times a week.

Then there is Megan. She's an awesome sleeper. Started sleeping though the night by 3 months! She used to be a great napper too until we hit 5 months. Now naps are a struggle and lately we've been dealing with 5-6 10-20 min naps a day and one cranky baby and mommy! I am grateful she sleeps at night but I'd gladly get up with her once at night if it meant I got 1 good nap (1.5-2hrs!) for her during the day.

[MistyAnn]

Oh Tracy! I'm sorry Sam is up too! maybe him and my girls plot together. lol.

[Chris]

I read an article about Chiropractors helping babies sleep. What do you guys think of that?

[Kimberli]

I have no experience with it - I'd have to do more research. DH swears by his chiropractor and tried to get me to see her when I was pregnant but I didn't go.

[Keren]

Kim, it gets better with each baby! hehe but i wouldnt know since Zach is my first!

[Kimberli]

I like your answer better then everyone else's Keren, so I'm going with it!! ;)